Not being helpful
Progress Report for the Shift: My intention is to shift from ego to Essence every moment.
A dear friend stayed with me for a few days and I felt I had a message for her… I wondered if I should and decided that to let her go without saying it would be worse… my message for her was “as long as you can’t trust yourself, enough to create your own material, you will not be giving the world the best of you”. She felt angry at me, and since has not been in touch, I am afraid I have lost a friend but, I had no agenda and felt I had received this message for her. So as I am sure I was neither judging nor working for myself, I suppose I have to accept that being rejected is part of trying to be a channel. Not my favourite part, but apparently I need to learn to detach myself from how my messages are received… or rejected… Not there yet. Might be a lonely path…
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Anger is good – it’s a reaction! OK, maybe not the type of reaction that one might want, but it certainly triggers something somewhere in the person.
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What if your friend had just said ‘yeah, I guess’ and then nothing more, no comment, nothing… Would that have been better for you? Probably not! “When the student is ready, the teacher will come”. Maybe your ‘student’ was not ready, and that has nothing to do with you.
YOU are not being rejected: what you said to your friend is not being accepted right now, and that’s ok too. Let it go!
And the path is NOT lonely. I keep meeting new, different people on the way, and that gets very seriously interesting, and certainly lonely
thank you for your comment. It is very helpful. I know you are right and I need to let it go. But do you ever feel as if you had fail to put it in a way the person could accept?
Oh yes! I have a real talent for putting things the ‘wrong’ way!!!
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But then I think of that old (and very wise saying) about: ‘you can’t please all of the people all of the time; you can only please some of the people some of the time’.
You sound like you tried to be of help to your friend, and I am sure you did not want to hurt her feelings or be a b**** in any way. I am sure you did not say anything nasty to her, so then, there is nothing you can do about what she decides to do with/respond to your message.
I have had similar experiences very often, and I have been able to sort things out at a later stage with some people, and not with others. So some people leave my life completely (as I write, their faces run past me), and others might have ‘disappeared’ for a while, but the important people have come back again. Even a couple I had lost touch with for years re-connected via Facebook when it turned out that we were clicking on the same ‘like’ stuff as I was!!!
Now, please stop putting the blame on yourself for what happened. You were not judging and you were not working for yourself.
And THANK YOU for what you said to your friend: “as long as you can’t trust yourself, enough to create your own material, you will not be giving the world the best of you”. Today, that message about trusting myself was for me
***that last bit was supposed to read: ‘certainly NOT lonely’