Shift Movement

What you focus on increases. Are you sure you want to focus on anger?

Forgiveness is putting it down and moving on.

If you can deal with what makes you angry (injustices that affect many, for instance), do what you can, channeling that energy into action until you are suprised to find it has mellowed into compassion.

If it is injustices received in your own past which are spoiling your present, put them down and move on. Start from where you are. Life is too short.

Clean something; create something; help someone; go for a walk.

What you focus on increases if you stay stuck in it. If you feel it, surrender to it, move through it, without getting stuck in the story of it, then I believe that is how you achieve forgiveness; this is the act of putting it down and moving on. In my experience anger is an energy that just is….if you deny its existence it goes underground and turns into rage. If you wallow in it, it also increases. But if you face it and move through it, it transforms and deep healing takes place.

I recently experienced a great session with my therapist on anger. I actually didnt really think I was angry, maybe a little frustrated about my life in general. When she touched that piece in me I realized that I was angry. Angry about an old false identity in myself, of which I had enough but couldn’t get rid of. So first we looked at the anger, what it was all about, and when that was all clear to me, the forgiving and comforting of that angry part of me could begin. I am not really there yet, but I am on my way and it feels liberating!

About 20 + years ago, I had a therapist say to me “Sharon you are the angriest person I have ever met with the exception of myself”.  I was floored…I mean floored.  But I have been very grateful for her saying that to me.  I always used humor to hide/mask my anger.  The more I looked at anger and accepted my anger the more I was able to learn from it.

  I guess in my life…the biggest awakening in the anger dept I’ve had was that if I felt embarrassed or humiliated (pick a negative) I responded with anger…almost always.  I used anger to hide my true feelings.  I used anger to hide feeling vulnerable.  I used anger throughout my “old story” and I wore that anger like a badge.  I never truly felt free until I was able to embrace feeling the feelings and dealing with them..one by one.  Funny thing was…it was no big deal to feel feelings…the big deal as it turned out was wallowing around in the muck.

 I see it as a tool it is the energy I release on impact. Whether this is a physical blow or a cosmic one. I used to believe that to show forgiveness was strength. Then I found out that can be abused. Now I am learning that to embrace a rage of the heart and mind and to focus it onto a target. My target is the people that desire to manipulate and dominate. I forgive them, from my past I learnt that unconditional forgiveness is also weakness. From myself by avoiding the process of giving unconditional forgiveness. There needs to be a process of forgiveness. The one being forgiven needs to be confronted by their error. Now my training is advancing I can do most of this on a cosmic level. If I stay in a positive stance these processes become instinctive and I have processed people before they come into my conscious reality.

These coaches are in some ways not helping you. I f we are offered the lesser path in our times of weakness we will take it. Everything you seek can be found with in the connection of the earth and the universe. It is unique in each and everyone of us and to be your own witness to the lessons that can be found in this connection is where your true path is.To give in to others who are following a desire to influence is just working against the earth and the universe and you will never win.